Resentment

Class problem
August Hein (1837–1920)

Facial expressions of bitterness

Hurt and bitter expression

Void - a person’s reaction to the perceived as unjustly caused grief , insult ^[1] , as well as negative emotions caused by this ^{[2] [3]} . It includes the experience of anger towards the offender and self-pity in a situation where nothing can be corrected. Unlike reproach and claim , when it is possible to rectify the situation. It is closely connected with such a concept as justice ^[4] . We are offended when we are deprived, as it seems to us, unfairly. If we did not get anything in fairness, we may be upset, but not offended.

Researches of resentment are not considered by researchers as innate emotions. Babies in the arsenal have an innate sense of anger , and they still have to master the complex sense of resentment. Resentment is usually taught between the ages of 2 and 5 years, being patterned or creatively adopted from other children, sometimes even more adults. Emotions of resentment had never been on the list of innate ones before. Currently, many experienced psychologists note that their children have resentment emotions immediately, literally from birth. ^[five]

Correction

The feeling of resentment arises from the mismatch of expectations about the proper behavior of the offender with the way he behaved in reality. That is, resentment is the result of four mental operations: building expectations, observing actual behavior, comparing ^[6] , making a decision about the reaction (to be offended, that is, irresponsibly give vent to emotions and commit supposedly uncontrollable acts, or assume responsibility for your psycho-emotional state and behavior and consciously respond). This technique is considered in the framework of the theory and practice of sanogenic thinking .

To reduce the charge of negative feelings of the transferred insult, you can, being in a state of well-being and tranquility, imagine the case of this past insult, recall and ponder all its components in accordance with the description (your expectations, the behavior of another); it is important that the reproduction of the state of resentment occurs without re-experiencing it. ^[6]